Homelessness, Hoarding & Homes Are For Living
How are these things related?
These things are related for a few reasons. Hoarding can lead to homelessness or at least a desperate need to find a new place to live quickly. In addition people need to know they are not alone. I am providing education about these issues by speaking up, being approachable and sharing what I know with a world that desperately needs authentic leaders.
Why do I want to share the connection?
I want to share this connection as an authentic leader this so that other people will know they are not alone. Also I want to declare that people living in dysfunctional situations can ask for help, because it is out there even if you have to beg and stand up for what you need to move forward in your life.
When I was seventeen I found myself having a discussion with a Child Protective Services asking me if I wanted to move out of my parent’s home. I adamantly refused and chose to stay in a hoarded home, because it was a KNOWN and I knew how to navigate in that scenario. Also I didn’t want to leave my disabled brother to fend for himself completely, since it was likely if we had entered foster care we would have been split up.
When I was eighteen I moved out to live and work for Mrs. M and be there to assist with housework and some of the heavier lifting. After 3 months we disagreed (as 18 year olds often do-because we have ALL the answers)! And I voluntarily found myself looking for a new place to live. I had promised my 18 year old self that if I ever got to leave the hoarded home, I would never return to live there.
I called on my Grandma M and asked if I could live with her. At first she did not want me to do that since she did not want to make my Dad mad. When I explained that I would live in a box before moving home and that if she didn’t agree I would hang up and start calling my aunts, she agreed to let me stay at her house. Nothing like a little guilt and blackmail to get what you want! Not my methods now, but it does give some insight into the desperation many kids feel when they can no longer live at home for a number of reasons.
What am I doing about it?
I am engaging with organizations such as SPIN Café (Serving People in Need), Ryan’s House for Youth, Island County Economic Development Council (ICEDC), Homeless Youth Task Force Forum, South Whidbey at Home and Toastmasters International. I provide education, training and information about these issues. Homes Are For Living, LLC is a company dedicated to talking about these tough issues and ensuring that educators, non-profits, universities, state systems and people in general are provided information to help people dealing with the challenges of homelessness, hoarding and homes to live in.
Tammi Moses, Homes Are For Living, LLC